Well I don't know how else to say that I'm becoming a complete wuss, so here goes.
I've been talking to this guy from LA over past few months, and over last few weeks the texting volume has escalated exponentially. (How do you like that engineer-speak? )
I've met him a couple of times already. The first time we met I ended up going out to karaoke club with him and even though I got totally trashed by all the free drinks being tossed my way by other dudes, he didn't try to take advantage of me. He personally made sure I made it back to the hotel safe and unmolested. The second time I saw him, I was pretty much laughing hysterically at everything he said - his sense of humor and his background are so similar to my own that we both find a lot of humor in some pretty dark stuff.
For the last couple of weeks we've been talking on the phone, and OMG it is downright scary how easily we converse. It's freaking me out a little.
NO NO NO NO NO.... no attachments!!! I am newly single. I am so afraid of the "rebound" romance. I don't want to feel like an idiot for enjoying these feelings. But does it make sense to run away from something just because the timing is not to my liking? Bleh.
Guys, give me some advice here. Thank goodness he is on the other coast to put a damper on how quickly things could develop.
Angie good for you!! Timing is never great for most things but you know what you just have to go with the flow. My bf was 3 days out of his 6yr on off relationship when we got together. We were firends first and he used to come round for coffee and chat before we started dating I never really looked at him as BF material and he was with his GF. We had known each other since we were 16 he'd talk about his relationship I'd give him unbias advice because i wasn't interested like that. But his gf wanted him to move away with her and he didn't want to go when here is where his goals are his firends and his family. they cared for each other but there ambitions pulled them apart. We got very close in the last two weeks of there realitionship where my opinion started to change and his seemed to have too and three days after they split we went on our first "date" and been together ever since. I had had 5years solo before that and both sides have their ups and downs. Like you say you have different coast lines let that guide the speed if you're enjoying yourself then carry on you deserve to have some fun
My advice would be to imagine how you'll feel in ten years if you let the opportunity pass. People that laugh in the dark, but don't live in it, can be hard to come by.
I'm glad I didn't have to be the one to go there, Anna!!
Take your time and look at the entire picture. Don't rush into anything, and if this new thing has legs, moving a bit slowly won't hurt it. If it doesn't, then best that you moved slowly. I think the physical distance here could definitely help in that regard.
If you schedule everything in life so well that you are unable to take unscheduled opportunities then you may end up with an uncompleted project. (construction project manager talking here)
Don't let how you "think" things should go stop you from at least feeling out these possibilities. You may just change your mind after a while.
@ Mike: NO!!! I think he's a little shorter than me (hard to say when I tower over in heels), but at least he outweighs me by about 45 lbs. He actually had his own weight management issues which he overcame a while ago (lost about 50 lbs).
We are a total mismatch! He grew up in LA, I grew up in the other LA ("lower Alabama"). His ghetto was in the city and mine in the rural south. And I hate to say it, but his last name would not be conducive to a warm welcome from my family. He doesn't look anything like the blonde hair, blue eyed ex hubby. Our careers are completely different - white collar vs blue collar.
Angie, does he make you smile, happy and excited? Do you look forward to his messages, to hearing his voice, to seeing his face?
If yes, then forget about everything else and go for it. As with Donna, there are no set rules to how long you should "remain" single. Do we walk away from someone because we think its too soon or because they come from a different socio, economic or cultural background?
Concentrate on the things that unite you, enjoy his company and see what happens. If it comes to nothing then what have you lost?
And if neither of you worry about who is the main breadwinner, then why should anyone else?
And Angie, this comes from someone who is newly separated and like you has met someone who I really like and who earns considerably more than I do (she's a hospital consultant).
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