http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.html traineo forum thread - Need help (depression) Sun, 13 Jul 2008 00:59:19 +0000 http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlI still can't stop thinking about this, but I've kept myself occupied so it's been fine until bed time. We're talking on Myspace, but it's not the same; messages are slow and she's more fun offline. I think I am doing a good job adjusting though.http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlSun, 13 Jul 2008 00:59:19 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlHey Matt... Glad to hear you're feeling better about this... Just because a person isn't in your space, doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship... but it can be hard ... and I understand how sad you can get especially at that first departure. I'm 37... and have had my best friend since we were in the 7th grade... and have known each other even longer... Our birthdays are 2 days apart... so we even through parties together... The worst was when she went away t...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlSat, 12 Jul 2008 05:44:16 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlGlad you are feeling better, Matt. http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlFri, 11 Jul 2008 16:01:04 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThank you guys for your input. I think I can cope better now. I guess it's not really depression, but it hit me hard because I've never had an event of this magnitude occur. Thank you Patrick, I've never looked at it that way. I am talking to the same person, just differently. I really appreciate the support you guys have given me, I was out of focus and felt alone for days, I feel better now and will try to continue my diet/workout plans. ...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlFri, 11 Jul 2008 00:24:34 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlJust email each other. One thing about life is that change is inevitable. It isn't that you can't have a relationship with this person anymore. The relationship just has to change. My girlfriend's dad died recently, and she has been hearing from a couple dozen people that he was close friends with and stayed friendly with through mail/email for more than 40 years. People from all over the United States and even outside of the country. Is it sad? yes Is it the end of a frie...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThu, 10 Jul 2008 23:07:17 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlI find that the best way to cope with a friend leaving is to find ways to busy yourself, so that you aren't left sitting alone in a room with nowhere to be, nothing to do, and nobody you feel like talking to. Maybe try picking up a hobby, or make yourself work at something you once started but never managed to finish. Joining a group or class (like a yoga class, swimming class, or martial art) is also a good way to force yourself to do something active outside of the house that is both good...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThu, 10 Jul 2008 21:21:05 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlMatt, i only have two friends who i have been friends with a long time and neither one of them live where i am so i have some idea what your feeling. It's going to hurt and your going to feel lonely i admit that but you can keep in contact through a variety of ways especially in this day and age. i do so with one of my friends through mostly internet, the other i talk on the phone with only about once a month but we make that phone call count. If your only in your teens then john is righ...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThu, 10 Jul 2008 19:05:56 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlMatt, I'm so sorry to hear that you are losing a close friend. I know that can be really rough. My best friend from college moved off and we very rarely see each other any more (we're like 700 miles apart), but we still send emails. It's not the same, and sometimes I still really miss her (this has been 2 years ago), but it's not like I'm in terrible pain or anything. You may always miss your friend, but after a while, the pain will fade and you will be left with fon...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThu, 10 Jul 2008 13:08:25 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlTell her how you feel. You'll feel better as time moves on.http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThu, 10 Jul 2008 13:00:20 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlFrom a quick look at your profile suggests your 16/17 years old, your whole life is infront of, loads of new people to meet, opportunities galore. To be frank you have to move on, the past is the past, you had a great friendship with her while she was nearby but now she is going away, you suggest you will still be in contact so good but you wont' get the level of relationship that you have had previously. I think you maybe over stating the depression, I can understand you are upset, sad...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThu, 10 Jul 2008 12:22:28 +0000http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlI have a dilemma. One of my friends is going to go away on Friday and I think I am depressed. I can't see life without her, she was one of my best friends. Recently being with her showed me how much of my life I've wasted doing nothing. I haven't ever gone through a dilemma of this proportion, and I don't know what to do. We will probably talk on Myspace but not everyday, and it's so much different than in person. Can someone give me first-hand advice to help me with thi...http://www.traineo.com/15_6233_0.htmlThu, 10 Jul 2008 04:09:56 +0000