I need to vent.

So my job requires me to drive 2 hours per day, which I really dislike. It also requires that I get up at 5am, which means I go to bed at 9pm. Since I don't get home until 6 or 7 pm most nights, this gives me very little time to do a lot of things that are important to me, such as: exercise, cook, spend time with my husband, and any other number of de-stressing, recreational activities. Did I mention that I'm taking 6 credits this semester, to finish my degree?

So. These are the external effects of my job that I dislike.

For the last two months, my boss has been INCESSANTLY sending me emails and memos that basically say "You can't do anything right. Do it this way." So I'll change, and then he wants me to go back to the old way. He doesn't really know what HE wants. He micro-manages everything, to the extreme of telling me when I can have my office door open and what kind of shoes I can wear to work, not to mention everything I do wrong (in his opinion). He has become overbearingly demanding and difficult to work with, to the point that I regularly (near daily) sit at my desk and cry. I hate my job.

However, I'm scared to quit. Is that totally irrational? I don't know what else to do, I've tried looking for and interviewing for different jobs, but it often works out that my school schedule (MWF late afternoons) prevent me from getting hired.

I'm angry and upset and want to walk out the door and never look back, but I don't know how. If this were an infrequent thing, I would try to overlook it, but it's been EVERY DAY for the last couple of months.

How do you deal with Devil Bosses? How do you quit? And how do you find another good job?

Look to friends first. Ask if they know of any good places to start. Often-times a close contact is the best way to find a new job.

Online sites like monster are decent. I found my current job through a career fair and happened to talk to the right person.

How do you find another good job? That's not the first question that comes to mind. How will your boss ever replace someone as conscientious and committed as you? That's the real question.

You have all the resources that you will ever need to be anything that you want.

If you wanted my advice or input (if not, here it is anyway, ha ha)I would suggest doing some writing. Write a letter to the universe asking for what you want. Write about what would be the ideal outcome for this scenario. As at the moment you don't sound sure of what you really want to happen next. Be open to the fact that when you start writing you don't know how long the process will take, or where it will end up.

I do this frequently in my own journal when I am stuck, and I come to some amazing clarity through it. You do get better with practice as well. I find I can think and think till my head bursts and get nowhere, yet when I write it down and then read it back, it is like I can hear what I'm saying and see things in a new perspective. Maybe you could try it and explore where it takes you.

'With a map you can go anywhere provided you know where you want to go'

All the best

Do everything you can to get out of there! Your boss sounds like my old boss.. it got to the point where every day I was worried that she would fire me for having my hair up wrong or not having things right on my desk. She even told me i HAVE to have my hair up every day which is NOT in HR policies. Sounds like you are good at what you do but have the wrong boss. LOOK LOOK LOOK for a new job and when the right one comes along you will get it. I had to look for about 6 months before finding one and I applied and was interviewed and offered the position in a span of 4 days! This new job i LOVE. My new boss is amazing and I have never been happier at work.

As you can already tell if you hate your job and are abused like that at work, it doesn't matter how amazing your home life is, it will tear you apart. You need to get out of there. If you are able to quit and be fine at home for a few months (finacially) then do so! If not, then just try your best to make it until you can get a new job.

I wish you the best of luck. I know how hard it is to be in a position like that. Feel free to message me or if you have a messenger program and want to talk and vent to someone who has been there let me know. I am happy to help and be an ear any time.

Wishing you the best!

- Michelle -