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Ashley L
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 09:19


So, I had to find a new motivation. I had lost just ENOUGH weight to where I now feel comfortable in my clothes and feel like if I eat a big meal and gain or lose a couple pounds here or there....it doesn't really matter. BUT, I wasn't continuing to lose weight. I was just hanging out. Not plateauing at all. I wasn't even trying.
When you are big for so long, and you get to a weight that you aren't skinny, and you aren't fat it's easy to just want to stop and relax for awhile. Well....that's what i've been doing for the last month and a half. BUT, I need to stop that now. I'm hitting the gym in the morning, and want to lose the last 20+ pounds that I was headed for before stopping. I've never been under 140 for more than a week in the last 8 years, and I'd like to bust through that and EVEN get into the 120s!!!
I just had to find a new spark. A new motivation. A new drive of willpower.
I don't know what it was...but it happened. And now I will be actually striving to hit my goal and not just hoovering around where I'm "comfortable". Wish me luck, and good luck to all of you!!!
Maaike van Veen
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 12:16


Lots and lots of good luck and motivation !! Good to hear you've found it !!

I recognise a lot in what you're saying. People also seem to encourage me to stop after what seems only the "beginning" of a major change. It takes some time to realise that if you're up for it, just go on and keep doing what you're doing.
Maaike
joe cory
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 13:01


good luck on your goal. sounds like you're back on track. the fact that you didn't add any weight after taking a "break" is awesome. it means your body(metabolism) is starting to do some of the work for you.however, time to go back strong, your body may have signalled to you that it needed a break to adjust to this "new, improved" you. Now that you have stabilized and your body is functioning at your new base weight, it IS time that you continue on. you'll feel and look that much better. great job
Nathan P.
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 15:16


I got the same thing Maaike got, when you hit an "OK" place people are like, "You look great, you don't need to lose any more weight"

To that I say, "You are just used to looking at fat people, I'm still 10 lbs over ideal." That usually shuts them up.

Achieve YOUR goal, not everyone elses'.

Also, I think a lot of people get jealous subconcisouly and they don't want you to look TOO good, cause it makes them look that much worse. (I'm cynical today, I guess)
Fred L
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 15:48


Good luck Ashley!

I have also gotten comfortable in the past and for some reason fell for what everyone was telling me, "you look great". I believed it and stopped trying to lose weight. Not this time. I am aiming to be below 200 and be in the 180s by 2008. I don't think I have been under 200 since high school or Jr. High.
x ss
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 16:05


Good for you Ashley. I'm determined to do the same thing -- when I get even close to what you've achieved already!
Tina Beana
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 18:53


That's great, Ashley! Good luck.. you can do it!

I know exactly what you mean about feeling comfortable and getting lax, I've done it many times before. I would start to feel good, look good and people would compliment me. I would start to feel like I was " done". It's disaster! Kick it in the butt! Sounds like you are ready to do just that!

Nathan, I do not think you are cynical, I think you are speaking the truth. I have many people in my life who like that I am overweight. It makes them feel better about themselves.
Stephanie Q
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 # Posted: 29 Jan 2007 20:35


Good luck! It is great to make your deams come true.
Aoife Hammersmith
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 # Posted: 30 Jan 2007 00:53


I know the feeling. I call it settling for "good enough." It's better than it was before, but it's not where you really want to be if you were honest with yourself and your dreams. The break probably helped. I had one at about the 140 mark after coming down from 200... it took about a month to find the new groove, because I was "ok" but not great. Then, I hit it hard again and got to the 120.

Once you're there... take it from me... you'll kick yourself HARD if you don't keep it. Don't slide back up more than 10 pounds EVER. 10 pounds is a month to pull back off, maybe two. More than 10 pounds and you look and feel like crap, because it means a significant change. It usually means a clothing size (or at least tightness) Even when you're "done" and maintaining, use that 10 pound mark. Keep track. You'll be glad you did.
Aoife Hammersmith
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 # Posted: 30 Jan 2007 00:56


Quoting: PozzSka
Also, I think a lot of people get jealous subconcisouly and they don't want you to look TOO good, cause it makes them look that much worse. (I'm cynical today, I guess)


You're not being cynical. I've experienced this first hand. It's damaging if you let it get to you.
Amy I
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 # Posted: 30 Jan 2007 01:24


Aoife - you are so right about the 10lb mark! I lost a bunch of weight and kept it off for years and over the course of the last 2 years I have gained back 18 lbs, so I have to lose it now . It is so sad to think of all the work it took to lose weight previously. I really feel bad about myself altogether. Also, when you do go off the track and start eating all sorts of not good stuff, it makes it so much harder to eat healthy again!!!

So everyone else, if this happened to you, I sympathize, and if not, don't let it happen, it really is devastating!!
Fred L
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 # Posted: 30 Jan 2007 01:38


Amy, I agree it is hard to think about all that time you put in and then fall off the wagon. That way this time I keep reminding myself how much time I am putting in and how I do not want to repeat my bad habits again!
Jennifer Lee
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 # Posted: 30 Jan 2007 02:08


I totally hear you. The same has been happening to me. I still want to lose 17 more pounds. and I need to find my "personal motivator"

Good luck to you and glad you found yours!

jennifer
Frank Bascio
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 # Posted: 30 Jan 2007 03:29


I've heard various folks advise to set a "red flag" weight which is your early warning signal that you have fallen off the wagon. As a bit more in your face, my friend got to her "ideal" weight and bought jeans that fit the new size..

...when they started to get tight she knew she was heading in the wrong direction.
Aoife Hammersmith
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 # Posted: 30 Jan 2007 04:01


Quoting: skippybosco
...when they started to get tight she knew she was heading in the wrong direction.


Of course, for real, my jeans would shrink in the dryer. So I didn't realize at first that for once it wasn't the dryer... it was me. ACK!

Quoting: bglittery1979
It is so sad to think of all the work it took to lose weight previously. I really feel bad about myself altogether. Also, when you do go off the track and start eating all sorts of not good stuff, it makes it so much harder to eat healthy again!!!


I hear ya, sister. I'm like... "but I could do it before, no prob. Why the hell won't the damn cake leave me alone this time?!?"
*sigh*

oh well. c'est la vie! Suck it up, fix it, and don't screw it up again. Rebuying real estate sucks!


Jessipoo .
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 # Posted: 5 Feb 2007 07:46


I'm just trying to lose 5 pounds that I've been lugging around for years, it's even more fustrating for me cuz I have even less motivation!

I've never been fat in my life so it's like, well I've always been okay and people tell me I'm fine and have a perfect body (little they know, I have a tiny bit of blubber covering my would be muscles), and to lose that 5 pounds would mean the world to me, also because I've never completed a personal goal, so it would feel great too!

I'm just eating well and working out 3 times/week to Turbo Jam.. hoping it'll help, I do either 40 minutes or 20 minute workouts, depends on time and mood, and walk to and from school from the metro. Still, results are extremely slow with me.. for some odd reason..
Juan Pineda
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 # Posted: 7 Feb 2007 20:19


Good for you Ashley,

I think many of us have been in the same place.

Quoting: bigmex44
I have also gotten comfortable in the past and for some reason fell for what everyone was telling me, "you look great". I believed it and stopped trying to lose weight. Not this time. I am aiming to be below 200 and be in the 180s by 2008. I don't think I have been under 200 since high school or Jr. High.


Fred - I am right there with you. I haven't seen the south side of 200lbs since my early twenties, before I started seriously weight training (and trying to increase my 'showoff' muscles). I am now an avid cyclist and am actually looking to eventually get to 180-185lbs by 2008. With my frame and build, I would be downright skinny at that size. To give you an idea, as an adult my chest has never been any smaller than a size 48, even when I was 200lbs with a 34 inch waist.

Juan
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