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tHe SbAsTiAn pRoJeCt
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 # Posted: 17 Jan 2007 18:34


hi everybody,

So i'm at work like every other day and that colleague comes to me and say: " you lost weight right, you look different ", i was SO surprised. The thing is i haven't lost that much weight just 9 lbs as of today but i feel slimmer and fitter anyways I know it's just one comment but it goes a long way, right after i felt so good and energized and let me tell you motivationwise it's incredible.
ok that was my story for the day, has it ever happened to you ?
Mycal B
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 # Posted: 17 Jan 2007 18:43


Yeah, and its probably my number one motivator. Having people say "Hye.. you've lost weight". I know that I should be doing this for "me"... but it just helps to have others notice your hard work. Keep it up!
Jennie W
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 # Posted: 17 Jan 2007 19:31


Sebastian,

That happened to me the other day...well kinda. I have lost about 15 pounds since I started my journey. Well, in that same time period, my husband has put on about 15. A friend saw us both the other day and said that we both look like we had lost weight. The quote was: "Jennie you look great, but Larry, you look like you have lost a TON!".

We both laughed because of the fact that he had not lost anything but in fact had gained, and I had been working my butt off to get where I am. It still was a good motivator for me though. It is always good to hear that stuff.
Nathan P.
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 # Posted: 17 Jan 2007 20:43


Quoting: mycal_b
Yeah, and its probably my number one motivator. Having people say "Hye.. you've lost weight". I know that I should be doing this for "me"... but it just helps to have others notice your hard work. Keep it up!


You're still doing it for you; you're allowed to enjoy a compliment, just say thanks and smile!

I've stopped getting compliments...I lost 75 lbs. and got compliemts throughout, now they're all pissed because I've always been told "your family's big, you'll always be big," I have to try and avoid the subject now.
Itadaki Mouse
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 # Posted: 17 Jan 2007 20:49


I got comments for a while from co-workers, gym trainers, and gym goers on my progress. Apart from my gym buddy, they have always been from guys which I kid about (but am flattered by nonetheless).

They got used to it after a while, and I don't get those comments anymore.

My wife has been consistent in her comments though -- she says I'm fat. Then again, by her standards (Japanese) I guess I am.
Paul Erickson
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 # Posted: 17 Jan 2007 20:53


Good job, Sebastian! Booya!


tHe SbAsTiAn pRoJeCt
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 # Posted: 17 Jan 2007 21:20


@PAUL and Jennie : Thanks ..


Jennifer Lee
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 00:37


That's great Sebastian. Keep up the good work. Keep working out for yourself and not other's opinions about you - if you follow this, I'm sure you'll succeed if you put your mind to it - as you have done.


Jessie A.
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 02:30


Yep...what everyone else said! Great job!

Last week, someone at work called me "skinny". Me? Skinny? In like...the same sentence? I nearly fell over dead.

Today, a different person at work told me that I looked great and said that I was insane for thinking I need to lose another 20-30 pounds.

And then a third person (who was standing next to person number 2) said that I'd look tiny if I lost that much weight.

New goal? Jessie=tiny...a healthy tiny. Muscular tiny. Fit and trim. Because "skinny" isn't just good enough.



~Jessie~
Fred L
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 04:35 - Edited by: bigmex44


Congrats Sebastian!

Over the last couple of weeks, I have actually gotten a few comments from some co-workers. I usually thank them, tell them that I have a LOT more to lose and then I move on.

I think I am a bit more cautious about the comments this time around because in the past those type of comments, for some reason, unmotivated me. The comments for some reason satisfied me and I stoopped trying to lose more or continue my journey. I know this is weird, but it is just one of those mental things I am working through to make sure I KEEP this new weight loss off the rest of my life.
Chereen Harding
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 07:12


Well done Sebastian!

Does anyone else have the opposite problem? I'm just not an attention seeker, and I feel rather put on the spot when people notice I've lost weight ( I know it's not good, I'm working on it ) - compliments make me uncomfortable ( which makes me want to start eating rubbish again, this has been my downfall on countless diets ). What do I do?
Sandra F
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 13:08


@Chereen: It's an odd thing in our society that it's considered completely proper to broach the subject of ones weight, which is extremely personal and a sore spot for many, both heavy and not. It's judgmental, in a way, although all of those people who say something are really just trying to be supportive.

The other day a few people at work said I looked like I had lost weight. I've lost weight since I started my journey to being more healthy last February, but in the past few months I've been pretty stagnant, bouncing between 3 or 4 very stubborn pounds that just won't drop (with 40 left to go to my goal). It was a little deflating, but instead of letting it get to me, I just responded "yes" and beamed a smile "thanks for noticing!"

Try to think of it more like they're telling you "nice sweater your wearing" than a comment on the person you are. These people are not judging you, but really just trying to be polite in what could be considered a warped and misguided way. In their minds, they are being nice. Know that you are a beautiful person and the shape of your body is beautiful, no matter what the scale says. Please try to let their comments bounce off you, and take them for what they are: not judgments, but encouragment.

Don't lose heart! Good luck with your goals!
NYCinephile .
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 13:28


@Chereen & Sandra F: I share your discomfort in unreservedly accepting praise. Would you like to join me on a team related to this issue? If so, contact me through Traineo messaging or my gmail address.
Nathan P.
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 15:52


I get "you don't need to lose anymore weight" a lot.

But I told them that they are just used to looking at fat people and don't know what an ideal person (physically) should look like. They laughed.

Good job everyone!

Sebastian, keep it up!

Chereen, don't worry about it, when you reach your goal and it is normal to them that you are thinner, they'll stop "putting you on the spot."
Jessie A.
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 16:14


@Nathan:

I feel your pain.

I explained BMI to person 2 and 3 yesterday and they laughed at me.

I told them that when I started this lifestyle change I was "obese", that currently I am "overweight" and my goal is to be in the "normal healthy" range. They laughed! I couldn't believe it. Sometimes I wish everyone at work was living like me.

~Jessie~
Nathan P.
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 # Posted: 18 Jan 2007 16:54


Jessie,

My co-worker's think they are. "I only ate fast food three times this week."

Or "I went walking for 30 mins the other day."
Me: "Oh really? do you go everyday?"
Them: "No i'v gone once, but I'm going to try to go more."
ME: "Good for you!"
3 weeks later;
Me: "How's your walking?"
Them: "Oh I never went again."

Or, "I cna't exercise cuz I have trouble breathing." DUH!

Or, "My back hurts when I exercise."
Me: "Of course it does the muscles are weak there and you never use them, so of course they hurt."
Them: "I was in good shape when I was in college."
Me: "That was 40 years ago." DUH!

Even my mom. Her and another lady here at work have been splitting their meals. So eating halfof what they normally eat. Sounds good right. They still eat fast food like 4 days a week. (half a meal) and they split snacks (too much fruit, too high in sugar). They've lost some weight, but as they go they keep adding halves of foods to their meals. Now they each have half of a soup (too much sodium), add a yogurt each (240 calories), and to wonder why they stopped lsing weight. So my mom now acts like she is eating healthy, don't listen to the guy who has lost 75 lbs.
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